This is Susan Powter...remember her? I was blurfing her new blog and this was filed under the label Susan's Bitch. I thought it deserved some reading pleasure over here on the escape... enjoy and bitch on bitches
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
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If Susan could get over herself long enough to actually speak properly and not like some teenage valley girl it might of been worth the watch...but some how I doubt it.
Agreed but she was still bitchin' like the best of us
true true lol
I agree that Susan needs to grow up.
However,she has a valid bitch! As a mother of small children I think the ancient art of whopping the shit out of your children has been lost. I was discussing it with several other mothers and we agree. You AREN'T SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR KIDS BEST FUCKING FRIEND!! Nope, that's not what your here for. You are you child's warden...their spiritual leader, their etiquette instructor and sometimes THEIR DICTATOR!!
Don't come at me with spanking is abuse and why can't you be your child's friend because if you HONESTLY can't balance discipline and love then you have no business with children!
My kids can be brats...the kind that make you wanna pull your hair out while walking through a store. I do correct them and discipline them and if that didn't work...if the nice way isn't sinking in, you would find me in the nearest bathroom stall spanking the hell outta them till they get the picture. I AM NOT GOING TO LEAVE THE FUCKING STORE SO THEY CAN CALM DOWN. Forget that nonsense. So you would, in fact, be rewarding the little shits for not wanting to be there. Guess what...I DON'T WANNA BE THERE. Life is a lesson to teach them and lesson one should ALWAYS BE...you do shit you don't want to. You suck it up and deal with it. That's why there's so many whinny ass adults out there. Their parents didn't introduce them to the REAL WORLD. By the way...whinny is VERY DIFFERENT from bitchy.
Children do need to be disciplined, taught right from wrong. There needs to be consequences for their actions...but hitting your child is not one of those consequences. I cannot even believe what I just read in the above reply. Spanking the hell out of your child in the nearest bathroom....thats disgusting and breaks my heart. Sure your child might smarten up (at that given moment) and they'll also grow up to fear you...great memories your making there Mom. Perhaps that was how you were brought up, sort of like a man beating his wife cause his Dad did the same thing....sure as hell doesn't make it right. You can bring up a child who is well mannered and grows into a perfectly normal well adjusted teenager without resorting to violence. Shame on you.
I once got so frustrated with my son, I smacked him and left a mark. I was appalled at myself as he ran up the stairs and slammed the door. I tried to call my mom, my best friend, and no one answered. I was getting hysterical because I thought I was the most evil person on the earth. I had been smacked around when young. I vowed never to lay a hand on my kids again. My mom said all kids need to be smacked. I knew that was not true ever. I apologized to my 8 year old and told him my vow-to never hit again. I never did and he is a normal caring adult. The hardest part was the apology I think (and the feeling of the slap in my hand has always stayed with me) NO child deserves this ever.
Oh please!! No where did it read that a child was being BEATEN!! There were a few other colorful phrases describing the action, but I don't think I said to lock your children up and call them It!!! It's called a spanking ladies. Forgot the words used to emphasize the action.
I mean really, you've never used the phrase "Drop dead gorgeous" or something to that effect. It wouldn't really imply that that person or object should/would drop dead because of their beauty.
I bet your the mommy that feels the need to get on the "same level" as the child and calmly explain what they did was wrong, right?! Just like Susan mentioned in her blog, repetitively tell you child to say sorry??? Yeah, that seems like it's working.
BTW, my children do fear the consequences of their actions. They know EXACTLY what will happen when they misbehave. Do they fear me...probably not or they wouldn't continue to act up. I'm also pretty sure you missed or just didn't care to read the part where I said, AFTER I've asked them nicely, if they still don't comply, then there's a trip to the bathroom. I suppose every child born before the 80's is a completely screwed up person since a good portion of them were spanked, since that was the punishment of choice before everyone decided your SUPPOSE to let your children walk all over you!!!
You lovely ladies would be the reason I said that people who can't separate discipline and love have no business having children. Your kids would be the ones that are BRATS in my son's preschool. The ones that have no idea what it even means to act like a responsible child.
Actually it would be people like you who don't *deserve* to have children. I have two great kids. Funny you should mention the preschool. I have 1 girl in preschool (no problems) she gets along perfectly well with others. I also have a teenager, great kid and funny I didn't have to "spank the hell out of him", he's polite, respectful, just an all around nice kid. Not to say I haven't had "moment's" with my kids, sure everyone does. But I've never felt the need to spank, its not right. You can argue until your blue in the face but the simple fact is...its not right.
I should certainly hope that you don't have a teenager that you have to spank the hell out of. That'd be a shame. Funny you should mention kids being well behaved in school as well, 'cause so are mine :)
You can type till your fingers fall off the simple fact is more kids need to be spanked.
I enjoyed the video and Susan does make a few good points! We dicipline our kids by punishment. We rarely spank and only do so when there aren't any other alternatives. Here is an example, my son had a very bad habit of taking off and runnig to the car when we were done shopping. I would catch up with him and tell him never to do that again, stay with mommy. I would explain the dangers of getting hit by a car etc. Well one day he ran to the car again, and at the same time this mad woman was pulling into the parking lot. She almost hit my son and probably didn't see him until the last second. I ran to my son, apologized to the lady and I spanked him right in the parking lot. I didn't want to but I felt he had it coming. Needless to say, from that day on, he hasn't taken off running blindly in any parking lots. I know that some people disagree but in my heart, I feel I did the right thing.
I watched the video this morning and read the comments and have been thinking about them all day. Snide comments about the aging valley girl aside (sad when someone can't get a full thought out of their heads, isn't it?), I wanted to comment on the whole concept of how to teach children basic courtesy and manners.
I have children. My children don't have a lot of rules except when it comes to how they treat other people. They say please and thank you. They hold doors open. They will pick up something someone has dropped to give it back to them. These same children have been known to kick strangers who won't stop stepping on them (for which I'm damn proud of them!). I think kids need to know how to interact with other human beings. Period.
Do you have to spank kids to make them listen? No. And one of my biggest problems with spanking is what happens to spanked kids when they're too big for parents to spank any longer? Sure, there are kids who learn to not get into trouble, but there are also kids who learn that hitting is how you solve issues, and when one has an issue with dad or mom, hitting is an option for them. Two of my children tower over me. I knew I'd have to have some other way to get them to cooperate because I can't physically make them do anything. Yet they still do the right thing. I love good kids.
Moms who don't set any limits are the moms who get walked all over. When my youngest spit food at his brother, I got up, removed his plate, and he didn't eat that meal. Seemed like a very natural consequence - you waste food, I put food away. And when I tell him to pick something up, if he chooses to ignore me, I get up off my ass and I escort him to the item in question. I will bend his little body and grab his little hand to make him pick it up. These are things I've had to do ONCE before the little ones realized that Mom meant what she said and would make it stick.
Have I spanked my kids? I've swatted them. Would I ever take my kids into a bathroom at a public place and hit them? Hell no. My kids don't act up in public, at least not for long. They never did. If my children get a bit wild, I get real close to them and say "Quit." Ends the problem for me. You set expectations and kids will meet them. You just have to be willing to do more than scream at them from the couch or reason with them before they are at a reasonable age.
I see lots of grown ups who act way worse than kids these days. Can we get a bitch up about that?? The people who walk so close behind you that you would swear they were a wart on your ass? The fat slobs who don't wait their turn and push in front of your full cart of groceries to get to the deli line first. The teeny boppers with the crackage who chomp and snap their gum while they ring you up. Or the women who talk really loud on their cells about their recent period or the visit they paid to the gynecologis to get their cervix scraped. It isn't just little kids who need to be slapped. I find the grown ups to be way harder to tolerate than someone else's whiny kids.
I am not a spanker, for the most part. I have found over my daughter's eleven years that the occasional swat has certainly caught her attention! However, as a teacher, I would say that many children would benefit from more discipline and less friendship. My mother once told me that we did not live in a democracy...I could live there when I was an adult! I still don't live in a democracy, my house is also a dictatorship. As the adults, I firmly believe that it is our responsibility to teach our children right from wrong, how to treat others, and how to treat themselves. Our biggest job is to take these blobs and mold them into responsible, respectful, educated human beings. Quite frankly, we have way less than 18 years to do it. If, by age 5, they don't know not to pull a straw out of someone's mouth, then quite possibly it is too late. Then, in a few years, they will join me in my classroom and I will have the pleasure of teaching them about getting along with others. Is that REALLY my job? No. But I do it anyway and for no extra pay! I agree with Susan, the manners lessons need to start early, they need to be consistent, and they often times need to be accompanied by something that really catches their attention, like a swat, a warning word, or "the look." Whatever makes your kid behave, that is what needs to be done. I, for one, am sick and tired of people thinking they need to be friends with their kids. Kids have friends. They NEED parents. *sigh* I feel much better!
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